If there is one aspect that we need to work out really hard to achieve success, it is the mastery of our emotions.
It is easy to control our emotions when we are dealing with people of higher authority. An employee would refrain from yelling at his boss for fear of losing employment. A person rendering service to a difficult client will avoid raising his voice against him. That is unless he is really fed up and has made the determination to cut off ties.
But things may be different when we are dealing with people who we deem are of the same level as us. Or perhaps even with people over whom we have authority.
We often hear of this saying: familiarity breeds contempt.
Dealing with our loved ones
It is common to hear stories of people finding it hard to control their emotions. This happens most especially when dealing with family members or even friends.
For the purposes of stressing out my point, I will deal with the most crucial area of our lives: our families. The family is every person’s first mission area. It is the basic unit of society. No civilization will exist without the family. Come to think of it. If we do not succeed in our first mission area, then the success that we will have, if we do attain it, will be a hollow kind of success.
How easy it is to lose our self-control when we are dealing with our family! When children run around like crazy and put the house in disorder while we are busy, we often lose temper. When they don’t follow the things we say, we turn beast-mode!
When a relative mentions something that does not appeal to our hearing, we sometimes fight back. Such actions even result in a prolonged period of disagreement.
All this is because of our failure to be the masters of our emotions.
The Fifth of Napoleon Hill’s Self-confidence Formula
In the book Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, he stressed out in his Self-confidence formula the following statement:
If we are starting our journey to success, it would be hard not to think of our family. At every turn of a man’s journey, the family will always be affected.
There will be difficulty in looking at ourselves as a gift to the world if our family sees us as a burden due to our lack of self-control. Certainly, we cannot please everyone. But it is a must that we start being accountable. We cannot become role models for other people if we cannot first be role models within our families.
If we do not control our emotions especially when dealing with our family, one way or another it will manifest in our external dealings. It will always bother our minds. A father’s mind will be bogged by the mistake of yelling at his child for losing his temper. Situations like that will make him lose focus. And the lack of focus tends to dissipate the energy we put into our work. It lessens the quality of our efforts.
Self-control is strength
And so, therefore, it is imperative for any man who dreams of success to develop a mastery of his emotions. Such development should start within the family. We must be able to control our emotions to gain freedom in doing the things that we love to do!
We cannot control the external factors that come to us. But we can control ourselves. Self-control is a sign of strength. We must control our emotions, not the other way around.
Removing all the negative feelings we have, especially toward members of our family and relatives, is a prerequisite to success. Let us allow our minds the experience of freedom by having the ability to implement self-control. Let us cast away the negative thoughts that hamper our development.
Facing the challenges
From time to time, situations will always confront us and our patience will always be tested. It is important to always go back to the reason why we started it all. We should always bear in mind the root of why we started our journey to success.
Controlling our emotions is never easy. We should not be afraid to seek help whenever we come to the brink of failing to control it. There are various communities that offer support. There are also a lot of motivational references that we can always go back to in order to keep our minds refreshed on a daily basis, especially that we look forward to achieving success. Let us acknowledge the struggles but let us never give up.
I pray for your success.
Be blessed and be a blessing!